If you didn’t catch my guest post at Light Refreshments Served on Friday, here it is below (but I still suggest that you visit LRS – they are very funny even if you don’t understand all of the Mormon references):
10 Things People Love to Give Kids/10 Things Parents Wish You Wouldn’t Give Their Kids
Balloons
Almost every visit to Trader Joe’s is accompanied by a meltdown, typically occurring at some point after the complimentary balloon is presented to your child. This can happen in the parking lot when the balloon slips out of his/her grasp and floats away. It can happen when you arrive home and the rest of your children want to play with the balloon. It can happen when it ascends to the top of a stairwell where parents risk breaking their necks in any attempt to retrieve it. There are limitless possibilities – and all seem to end in heartbreak.
Musical Instruments
This always sounds like such a wonderful idea. Who doesn’t love music? It’s inspiring, it’s creative, it’s a window into culture and genius, and some think it actually brings us closer to God. But when a child is banging a drum, blowing a horn or strumming a ukulele, it’s not music. It’s just noise. Migraine inducing noise.
100 Piece Puzzles
First of all, this 100 piece puzzle is usually presented to a six year old who has no hope of being able to start, let alone finish the activity. So the parent is required to coordinate, monitor and execute the entire process. Usually while the child is watching TV. This basically makes the puzzle a gift for the parent. Please don’t ever buy me a 100 piece puzzle.
Toys That Involve Assembly
Everything looks fabulously entertaining and educational on a box cover where well dressed children are pictured laughing and exclaiming over their love for the miraculous toy. What isn’t pictured is the reality of 750 tiny pieces of plastic and 50 pages of directions that can only be read with the use of a microscope. Much like the puzzle activity, assembly of the toy will require up to 24 hours of the parent’s time. Time that the child will most likely spend watching TV.
Toys That Require Batteries
Oh, I know. You always buy the necessary batteries and include them in the gift. That’s irrelevant. The problem is not purchasing the batteries, it’s inserting them. Most toys developed for children include child proof battery covers. Initially, this makes complete sense – I mean, I can’t imagine what might happen if one of my children was able to dislodge a battery and put it in their mouth. Oh wait – that’s right – it happens every day with our TV remote control. Anyway…in order to get the battery into the toy, you must first locate a special screwdriver made for very tiny people and remove about 25 miniscule screws. Even though we own one of these Lilliputian tool sets, it seems to disappear whenever I need it (or maybe I just can’t see it since it’s so small). The fun really peaks when you are done replacing all 25 screws and the toy still doesn’t work.
Toys That Include Tiny Accessories
How many times have you found yourself tearing a room apart looking for a Barbie shoe, a Star Wars action figure’s light saber or another essential component to a toy’s wardrobe or function? These itty bitty necessities are impossible to keep track of and disappear within days of removing the toy from its packaging. It is my belief that these items are sucked into the same vortex that abducts my sunglasses, nail files, pool ID card and car keys. Some items escape and are eventually located. Others are never recovered. Sometimes I suspect that my son may have eaten them.
Toys That Go With Other Toys That Must Be Purchased to Complete the Set
Why do people insist on committing parents to spending more money on yet another collection? Maybe my children don’t like Thomas the Tank Engine. In that case, I won’t feel compelled to add to the gift of a new “Percy” or “Emily” with more engines and “Troublesome Trucks” to complete the set. OR MAYBE my children will become addicted to these little trains that usually cost about $12 apiece. Which scenario seems more likely?
Toys That Involve Science Experiments
I’d like to say that this doesn’t require any further explanation, but just for the sake of argument… “Learning toys” are extremely popular right now. So one could assume that an older child would really like a do-it-yourself volcano kit. The reality is that parents don’t want a volcano in their house. It’s like, one of the perks of living in suburban America. We enjoy our lava-free lifestyle. Besides – Hollywood has raised the bar in the wonder department with all of the special effects our kids see in movies. It’s unlikely that they will be impressed by a homemade volcano. Parents will have plenty of time to do science experiments for school projects. Let them enjoy their homework-free time without any volcano construction.
Different Toys for Multiple Children
Without fail, someone will always prefer what someone else got. Usually, there will be a correct guess for what one child will like, but it’s very hard to hit multiple home runs… With the little ones, there are tears and with the older ones there is sulking. It’s not that they are ungrateful – they are just children. And they don’t understand how you could be so stupid to give their older brother a Swiss Army knife, yet think that they would like a handmade corn husk doll from Amish country. I mean – it doesn’t even come with plastic shoes – or a light saber.
Identical Toys for Multiple Children
This sounds like a good idea. Total equality, no fighting over who got something better or more expensive – it’s like Communism at its best. But children don’t believe in equality. They will always find the flaw to point out to the youngest sibling: “Your Barbie’s hair isn’t as thick as my Barbie’s hair,” or “my racecar is faster than yours.” Sometimes they use imagination to contrive even more unlikely comparisons: “My robot is smarter than your robot,” or “my Barbie is really a princess, and a fairy, AND a mermaid…but yours is just a Barbie.” Kids can be so cruel.
“But,” you say, “I just wanted to do something nice. Won’t the parents at least appreciate the gesture?” Well…there isn’t a good answer for this. In a perfect world, I would say yes. Yes, parents appreciate anything you do to acknowledge their children. Why wouldn’t we? But we just don’t enjoy all of the complications that these unsolicited gestures can create.
While presents are expected at birthday parties, they are not otherwise necessary. If you want to do something nice for a child, just talk to them. Take an interest in their activities, let them show you around their playroom, engage in 15 minutes of playing “grocery store” or throwing around a football. Kids will always appreciate attention more than things. And if you feel that you absolutely must present them with something, make it something that you can actually do with them. Except for a do-it-yourself volcano. If you bring one of those to my house, you will never be invited back.
These are all great and some of them I hadn’t though of before!
When the twins were born, we invested in a TON of rechargeable batteries. I can’t even imagine how much we’ve saved just in D batteries for their swings.
My other peeve…toys with multiple parts. It’s just a mess waiting to happen when MiniMe gets out his 26 jungle animals or his Mickey Mouse pirate with 14 small pieces.
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I love this.
Don’t forget toys that play really annoying songs. These are really bad in baby toys. Like six meters of a mozart song is going to make my baby smarter.
New to your blog via light refreshments served. Funny!
Great post! So true. However, I disagree with the musical instruments section. We love guitars and keyboards and drums in my house. The racket from the instrument is always better than the whining.
Great list and well thought out!
You know what I hate those books that make noises. The Emlo’s Garden nealry sent me over the edge. My three year old pressed the la la la la button over 200 time in under an hour. Thanks a lot Auntie!
Awesome list! Especially the different/same toys for kids. Been there…
I’d also add: toys that may involve skull fracture.
It’s all fun and games until someone falls off and breaks their skull.
Connie – I’m sure there are more…in fact, some of the commenters mention others.
Inst-mom – Ah twins….double the everything – including batteries.
Maggie – Thanks for stopping by – I’ve been enjoying your site and bookmarked the new address.
Jennie – Yes – I’ve had many “tunes” stuck in my head – including banter from the Leap Frog talking toys.
Christy – I hear what you’re saying about the music. Maybe I’m just basing this on the noise that toddlers make with musical instruments. Hopefully they will improve with time.
Anastasia – Thanks as usual for your continued support.
Suzie – Someone gave us a Halloween book called “Tiny Ghost” and I don’t think ANY of us liked it. Too loud – too grating – and generally annoying (Hmmm – sounds kind of like Elmo…)
Melissa – It’s the ultimate catch 22 – you really can’t win because there will always be something to fight over.
KC – I didn’t even consider skull fracture…possibly because that’s just a daily concern in our house with the giant three year old that takes wrestling to a new level. I guess anything stick like might fit into that category. That could be an 11th item – anything that could be a weapon (which would be pretty much anything).
Totally agree with you on this one.
My son just had a birthday and was given the game HI HO Cheery-O. It is a cute game and I remember playing it as a child. What I didn’t know is that the little pieces of cardboard that you punch out in order to place the Cherries in the tree are fun to put up your nose:) It took 3 adults to restrain my son and 1 adult to get the little cardboard piece out of my son’s nose with a tweezers. It was a fun end to the birthday weekend.
This is still great the 2nd time around!